Our Stories

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we strive to change it.
At Équité, we believe that every story has the power to inspire, challenge, and create change. This space is dedicated to the voices of Sri Lanka’s LGBTIQ+ community - stories of strength, struggle, joy, and everyday courage. Here, we honour lived experiences and celebrate the resilience that drives our movement forward.

Lakmal’s
Story

‘’People think transitioning is illegal in this country. Even my family members think the same. Even though I tried hard to explain to them that it is not illegal and that there is a circular, they are not ready to understand nor listen to me. It has become extremely difficult to be who I really am at home. I’m glad that organizations like Équité exists hopefully in the future, people like my family will be more considerate and understanding of trans people’’

Sahan’s
story

“My mother said that she is going to commit suicide if I go into the transitioning process. I honestly didn’t know what to do at that time. She pressured me so much. It made me feel bad all the time. I never felt happy with myself. I still carry those traumas with me. This has affected my confidence and self-esteem. I get depressed. The hardest part wasn’t the insults from strangers, it was knowing that my own mother, the person who was supposed to love me unconditionally, would rather see me disappear than accept me. But I found my strength in some of my friends who care about me. Today, I am still healing. But I look in the mirror now, and I see someone I am proud of. Someone who fought to exist”

Malika’s
Story

“When people get to know that I am a transgender, the first thing that they are interested in to know is about my sex life. Some people do not ask this directly. They would ask questions like how you could have children, are you happy the way you are. But there have been moments when people simply ask my face about my genitals, and how they are functioning, can we even satisfy our partners. These are very personal questions, and they make us very uncomfortable. I wish more people would recognize that transgender people, like everyone else, deserve dignity, respect, and the right to privacy. If you want to understand trans people, start by seeing us as people first.”

Kevin’s
story

‘’ I currently work at a private company. I have worked there for 3 years. Recently a higher position within the company got vacant and I applied for it. I had more than enough qualifications for the position but the management did not even consider my application. Instead of giving me the promotion, the management degraded me into a lower position just because I’m gay. I feel humiliated and find it really hard to be in that company anymore. The people I work with also bullies me. They call me names and I’m always the topic of their insults. I work during my lunch hours simply to avoid contact with the workers. To deal with this everyday takes a toll on my mental health. I’m really glad I got to share my worries with the Équité team. Talking to them helped me feel better, and now I have the confidence to leave this place and hopefully find something better.”

Shammika’s
Story

“I was in a relationship with a girl who lived in our neighbourhood. When our parents found out, they refused to let us see each other or even step outside the house. My parents hit me severely. My mother screamed that I was bringing shame to the family. My father took away my NIC to stop me from running away. We tried to escape, but before we could do that, we were caught by my mother and sister. They dragged us to the Police Station. Due to an argument that happened between me and my family, the officer in charge locked me in a remand cage. I argued with my family saying that it’s my life and I have the right to make decisions. As the Police could not detain me, they claimed I was acting violently to take me to a Hospital. After the admission. I spent the night at the hospital. The next morning, a doctor examined me and confirmed that I had no mental illness. Since the doctor was concerned about my safety at home, she was hesitant to release me. That’s when Équité stepped in. Équité visited me at the hospital. With their help, I filed a police entry stating my voluntary detachment from my family. Thanks to Équité, I was finally out of my house. They gave me the support I needed to start over and rebuild my future.”
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